I have to confess I sometimes get stuck in my masculine energy and then I find it really hard to move into my feminine, does this happen to you? Well our Goddess Life Hack #1
“How to find joy by balancing your masculine and feminine energies”
will address that. I spoke with Matthew Fitzpatrick, a renowned life coach and mentor. Here is what we talked about x
Hey, Matthew, first of all, I think there might be some women out there that might not actually understand that inside of us there is these masculine and feminine energies. Could you start by talking a little bit about what they are, how we can identify them?
Sure. I think the classic example is of yin and yang. One is push and pull or in and out.
The masculine energy is about structure and it’s about growing specifically through challenge, so we like to seek out and find things that we can conquer and it makes us feel strong and proud. The feminine energy is about growing through surrendering and already having freedom, right? The masculine’s about finding freedom. It’s about surrendering to yourself internally and then feeling and flowing where you want to go, and growing through bringing people together rather than separating people.
We all have both within us, and they both have their strengths and weaknesses, but it’s about deciding in each moment which part of yourself you’re going to access, because if you use your masculine in certain environments, it’ll go really well, but if you use it in other environments it’ll actually go quite badly.
First of all before we get to how balancing that is going to actually bring us more joy, how can we identify that, because I personally find it’s sometimes really difficult to know if I’m in my masculine or my feminine.
Yes, so for a feminine woman, if you are feeling radiant and flowing and you’re feeling free, you’re in your feminine. Any time you’re not feeling that at all, you’re in your masculine or your neutral, not really being in either. It is about recognising where you find your most joy, and for a feminine woman it will be in her feminine, and just living from that place.
Okay, so I’m gathering that if you get stuck in your masculine, you’re potentially blocking joy from entering your life. Would it be the same if you get stuck in your feminine? How do the two work …
You won’t block joy from being in your life in your feminine, because that’s who you are at your core. There’s nothing wrong with being stuck in your masculine, okay? I see plenty of women who are quote, unquote, “stuck in their masculine”, but it has it’s strengths. When you’re building your business and you’re out there thriving, you’re going to want to be able to challenge yourself and grow through that energy, but it’s when you’re home, when you’re by yourself, and when you’re in your relationships, you want to be in your feminine for sure.
I don’t want to say you’ll block off joy if you’re just in your masculine, but you won’t feel the fullness of life if you’re just only in one energy all the time.
The takeaway I’m getting from this is that quite often we’re too focused on our male and then by bringing in more awareness of our inner feminine, which really is our power and our essence
That’s when joy is going to really start to flow.
And it’s when all success will come to you, because I think women overestimate how much they need to be in their masculine because it’s how they get taught when they’re growing up, right? You have to be strong. There is great power in being strong, but your intuition and your softness is strength. I mean, you only have to see a feminine woman walk past a group of guys to see the effec that she has on them. Yeah. Coming from that place of flow, you will just perceive so many things that a masculine wouldn’t see, and so that’s where your power is. The more you can live from there, the more joy you’ll have in your relationships in your life, but also more successful flow.
Just to finish up, MJ, how do we move from the masculine to the feminine?
Music, dancing around … Like, I’ve literally given feminine energies homework of, “You need to go home and dance around in your undies for half an hour and scream at the top of your lungs.” Go and getting your hair done, getting your nails done, all of these things will help make you feel radiant, which is where your power is, but also just recognising if there’s tension in your body. If you’re feeling like you’re holding something up, then you’re in your masculine. If you’re feeling free, you’re in your feminine.
Okay, so really tuning into your bodily state.
Awesome. Thanks, MJ.
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